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Key facts about remarriage include:


Mourning for the lost relationship with your former spouse takes a minimum of 2 years and up to 5 years to complete, whether that relationship was positive, negative or mixed. There is a mourning process with a number of stages that take time to go through.


It's normal to be cautious about remarrying after having experienced divorce. The truth is that those who remarry can have a much better chance at success because they now understand the need to be intentional about adopting marriage success strategies. They know that love won't lead to 'everything working itself out'.


Unresolved feelings (including shame or guilt) about being divorced are common, as are feelings and concerns about marrying someone who has been divorced or otherwise lost a spouse.


Being divorced can affect your expectations about the potential success of your new marriage in ways that you may not even be aware of.


Reactions to the remarriage of a former spouse (including anger and grief) should be expected, even if you have already remarried yourself.



References and Reading:


E. Mavis Hetherington, Ph.D. and John Kelly, For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered. Part One of the book may be helpful in considering what went wrong in a previous marriage. In Part Two, see chapter 8: Repartnering, High Hopes & Crossed Fingers. The overall tone of this book is positive and takes the view that divorce, while stressful and confusing, is an opportunity for personal growth and a better life.

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Couples who are remarrying find that MST marriage preparation helps to address the special challenges that remarriage can pose. MST includes an special optional seminar section to help couples to specifically address remarriageissues.


MST functions as an immunization that boosts your capacity to handle these potential difficulties. It fortifies your marriage immune system by giving you an early alert to potential areas of challenge and providing you with the skills and opportunity to resolve and manage these challenges before stress and conflict emerge.


If your remarriage involves children from a previous relationship, see our Stepfamilies tips page.


MST pre-marriage preparation seminars are designed to help couples build the skills and understanding that they will need to succeed in remarriage. They'll also get help to overcome all of the other issues that challenge couples in modern marriage. MST is religion-neutral and based on the latest marriage research.


Don't wait for problems to emerge, take preventive action to promote the happiness and success of your marriage.


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